My friend’s girlfriend isn’t giving him sex but she’s giving me

Dear Kate,

Please keep me anonymous.

I had sex with my friends girl. My friend has been with his girl for the past few months.  However, they have not had sex for the time that they have been together. Although she is not a virgin (neither is he), she has expressed to him that she wants to abstain from sexual relations until marriage. For whatever reasons, he agreed.  Please note: we have all been friends since we went to state college.

Sometime back, me and her went to an event together. My friend could not attend because of xyz reasons. We had a few drinks that night. She wanted to pee so I followed her to the bathroom. As we were walking back to the crowd, a particular song got her excited and she danced on me until the song was over.  While we were dancing, I got excited and couldn’t control myself. I felt a little embarrassed that I got a hard on dancing with her. But although she felt me getting excited,  she continued to grind on me harder.  After the song was over,  we went back to the crowd to continue the night.

After the event,  I was sober enough to drive her home but too drunk to go the distance to my place.  She was aware and suggested that I spend the night. One thing lead to the next and we ended up sleeping together.  After that night,  it has been a reoccurring event where we link up at different times to have sex.  Crazy thing is, she is doing things with me that she told her boyfriend she has never done and would never do.

My friend and his girl still has not have sex. Should I tell him? Or should I encourage her to him? We talk about the wrong that we are doing but can’t stay away from each other.

All he talks about is her and the things that he can’t wait to do with her. While I’m chilling with him, she would be texting me. And there are times when I’m laying in bed with her, she will be having phone convos with him.  I know it’s wrong but it’s been hard for me to end things. The worst has been the times when me and her would spend time together in the day and all three of us would meet up at night for a group event.

Please help!
Dear Please Help,

I can’t believe you are asking a question which you should “automatically” have the answer. You did wrong by over-stepping boundaries with your best friend’s girlfriend and now you want to tell him?

Does it even cross your mind how your friend is going to react? Do you have any heart or was this all for your “EGO?” It really goes to show how far any man/woman will actually push boundaries because of their own selfishness!

The fact that he is thinking that he will wait until after marriage means he loves and respect this girl. How shameful it is that she in turn has no respect for herself.

If you and her seem to be having such a good rendezvous, then you might as well continue and let your best friend know what was going on.

No doubt when he finds out it will cause hurt, humiliation him and embarrassment. But its better to have that hurt at an early stage rather than when he’s married to a woman like that.

Quite frankly speaking, it would serve him well not to have neither of you in his circle.

By the way, no matter who initiated this affair both you and your friend’s girlfriend -should feel ashamed and guilty for your lack of “restraint!”


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  1. You are NOT his friend. You BETRAYED his trust. It’s not like it was a one time thing and you never did it again. You are still living in the “present continuous tense” so do NOT call him your friend. “With friends like you, he doesn’t need enemies”

  2. 2 Timothy 3:1-5 King James Version (KJV)
    3 This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.
    2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
    3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,
    4 TRAITORS, heady, highminded, LOVERS OF PLEASURES more than lovers of God;
    5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.

    The fulfillment of the above scripture in full swing!!!

  3. You backstabber……how dare you call him YOUR FREN…

    You should outed her whorring Azz….but instead you enjoy all the sexual pleasure…the head…whatever else she doing….I wudda demean her and bull she….then tell him



  4. YOU hab the gallll to call him ur fren😰😱😱😱……you and the whorring gya l have been having all kinds of sex behind his back…

    A real fren wudda fukked she in EVERY hole ….demean her trifling no good azz….sexually…THEN OUTTED HER….

    But instead u enjoying SEX …and hab gallll to still sit and break bread with YOUR FREN…LISTEN TO HIM TALK ABOUT HIS PLANS FOR HER…when he finds out and HE WILL…


    STOP CALLING YOURSELF…HIS FREN…I hope she worth the frenships…

  5. Trifling!!!!! This shows how women can b just as grimy as men! How can u tell ur bf u want to wait until marriage etc but sleep wit his ” friend ” ?! U need to leave ur bf so he can b wit someone who actually deserves him n b wit the guy that ur sleeping wit.

  6. Ok…as far as i see, you saved your friend. Yes u are still in the wrong for clapping his ting, but better you than someone else who he may not find out about until its too late. We are all human and we all fall short. No sin is greater than none. Just use this opportunity to do the right thing brodie. There will be consequences but atleast in the long run it could save your friend. Best of luck fam.

  7. This is absolutely appalling! you have the audacity to call him your friend? Dude you and the girl are better off staying away from your “Friend”! none of you mean him any good and quite frankly you and the gal deserve each other. I hope WHEN not IF! WHEN she does the same thing to you you’re not gonna run crying back to the same “Friend” you dissed. With “Friend’s” like you, who need’s enemies? Smh

  8. Boss man mi agree with Kate. But umm. Does the woman love him ? I guess not. She loves u more. How about u and your new GF pull a switch on him. Set him up with a girl that would give him sex , your girl pulls away and soon he will be with this other girl. Then you can pretend to comfort ya gf and boom.

    Hope this works. In the end I hope u all are happy and no one is hurt.

  9. You and the girl are nothing but ho ho ho. Two you of are some real backstabbers f***ing each other behind your “friend’s” back.

  10. It’s obvious that you two were meant to be together. You seem to have lots in common. Just stop fool your so called Friend and let him know that she is yours. What I can tell you is that fire will not last and you and her won’t either. So keep fooling yourselves and enjoying the sex. That’s all it is anyway.

  11. Because of people like this – backstabbing b!tches, this place will go to hell. hang urself before karma kills u. I hope he finds out and blow ur head with a backpack full of 9mm clips

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