Gentle Parenting?
By 14-year-old Adahna Henry
Let us give a round of applause to the mothers and fathers who found it wise to adopt “gentle parenting”.
They have completely changed the hands-on approach to parenting, thrown out the good old belt, and as a result, they have forfeited control and handed it to their children with a bow on top.
Their contribution to gun violence and crime in youth should be celebrated, as they have traded discipline for contumacy, respect for disregard of authority, and manners for discourtesy.
We will never be sure if it was their original intent to receive such exemplary behavior from their children, but they sure did achieve it. Who cares if a child’s stubborn nature prevents them from learning, or if their blatant disrespect paints them as a nuisance to society?
Obviously not their parents! Let’s not forget how this approach to parenting entails self-expression through the way in which an individual dresses.
The only trait that these minors express is a promiscuous nature, which most have obtained from their parents.
The free will that children have, leave them as victims to the real world, with no hand to guide them, no words of God filled encouragement, and no path into the light. So again, I say congrats for shaping the minds of these young people in an egregious manner and leaving them to walk blindly into the traffic of reality. You all have done an outstanding job!
Ephesians 6:4 states, “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” Apparently the “gentle parenting” concept does not encompass the will of the Lord or the teachings of the bible.
This approach, instead, disregards the basic training that children should receive and encourages the idea that actions do not have consequences and, overall, leads to the questionable decisions that children make.
We must also focus on the indirect effect gentle parenting has on social skills and overemphasis on feelings, as children may face difficulties in developing social skills without learning how to navigate conflicts, or having the ability to manage and regulate their emotions when they are faced with discomfort or disappointment.
As much as I would love to say that I aspire to raise my children using the hands-on method, I fear the good behavior, respect, positivity, and overall success that comes along with disciplining children.
So I implore everyone to apply the new approach and reverse all the wonderful results that our ancestors managed to achieve. Let us make this nation violent, disrespectful, and unsuccessful. Let us be “gentle parents.”
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When young people have to complain about lack of parenting it reaaal bad. The bible does say spare the rod and spoil the child…no don’t beat their brains out but remind them who is the parent. To those of you who are adamant you will not beat your children, that’s still no excuse let them do just what they want knowing that the worst they’ll receive is a stern look and a “hmmph”. These children are not stupid! They are doing mandarin and algebra in primary school. They know you don’t mean any of those idle threats. When you speak to them, ensure they listen, acknowledge, respond and obey, knowing that there are consequences for disobedience (whatever you the parent decide that to be).
Gentle parenting is bs this is why the kids of today bussing the parents arses shooting up people and schools robbing n killing people who work hard for their money they going learn when people get sick and tired of them hitting robbing etc and shot them in them head and chest and kill them but hey if ah that what they want then so be it nuh come pon social media ah bawl say my child was such a gentle soul they never hurt anyone etc etc nothing wrong with disciplining your child it’s how u do it you nah kill them but at the same time you have to put your foot down I don’t want to have to be embarrassed or burying one of mines because of the gently parenting bs
Yesterday I saw a most blatant display of gentle parenting at the CIBC Music for the Cure. This well organized and executed demonstration of how positive disciplined children with amazing musical skills can showcase their talents for a good cause was distracted by the results of gentle parenting. A mother dressed in a brightly coloured short shorts outfit seemed to think it was okay for her to follow her toddler throughout the church. She did this with a smile on her face as the little girl walked up and down the aisle and through the pews. A little boy maybe around 7years-old, who I believe was not hers, joined the parade as he probably thought it was fun. This was a distraction to a wonderful event.
No reasonable person expects small children to quietly sit through an event. A sensible parent would take the child outside when they get restless. The scantily dressed mother and the mother of the boy need to set boundaries in their gentle parenting. There was another toddler girl wandering around the church but she was quickly stopped by people who know how to parent effectively.
Come on parents, do better! Your children will most likely be better. Effective parenting starts when they are at that cute toddler stage and it will likely make the parents and all our lives easier when practiced.
Look up gentle parenting and conscious parenting. No research was done for this well written and snarky article. Author seems to think gentle parenting is spoiling. Check jail and you will know how much blow dem bad man does get.
When you grow up and have your own, you will also be surprised at two truisms: nature plays an important part, nurture notwithstanding. And you can give kids everything except mind.
We all have the answers and the WORLD of criticism when we have not walked a single day in the lives of those who we criticize. Hopefully you’ll step up in some way, outside of dropping off wud on adults. Did you too get gently parented? It manifests in many ways, including speaking to adults if you are their age-mate.
Circle back in a decade maybe?
Your quoting of Scripture but no definition of gentle or other parenting styles is telling. But one is limited by their sphere of reasoning and though on a good track, a teenager’s brain is not half developed for full scope rational thinking.
Writer seems to think that gentle parenting is spoiling. You should get thump up every time you do something against the norm and see how that turns out for you.
Plenty promiscuous females get blow lakka darggggg. True story, neighbours will literally hear them getting bang off. Dem still nar tap and the beatings make it worse in fact. Let your brain mature a bit and free life advice: you catch more flies with honey than vinegar. Plenty people get licks for speaking in even less rude tones.
Cannot wait for the perfect specimens that this generation will eventually raise. They know it all from before they even finish CXC now. Amazing.
P.S do you live with these supposed gentle parents? Because they are not banging off the child in public on the spot to please misguided nosy unhelpful onlookers, does not mean that no discipline is put in place.
Wash ya teenage mouth pon big people. Best wishes in your academics.
well done well done!
It is very evident that Dan and others believe the opposite of gentle parenting is how much blows you give your children. What a foolish conclusion to come too.
It’s the inability to correct, nurture and guide them in the right path because either you yourself does not know or you know but fail to do better.
It is also sad to see how foolish you people can be to read an article a 14 year old writes that speak about us a parents inability to guide our children, and drop dumb remarks as when you grow up you will know. That is so stupid to say…
Read the article carefully and you will see a child asking begging us as parents to do more, to be more for our children to show and teach them the right way. Instead your ignorant and foolish comments missed the whole value of the article.
Shame of you trying to berate a child for her honest and sincere expressions.
Well writen Ms. Henry, well said..
@ Fed Up of The Crap!!! – Well said. People need to read the article, realize what it is saying and NOT saying. Either extreme is wrong.
The article does not give any definition. It just drops words. It is therefore left to the reader to infer and it appears that the author is writing about what she has not researched and seems to think gentle parenting is spoiling or not disciplining. There is no way that can be blamed. Look up gentle parenting and see how that can be blamed. It is absolutely not a free for all no consequence parenting. So then the whole article is baseless.
The opposite end of the spectrum is shown to indicate that the key is NOT blowing or licks. As they say parenting does not have a manual and you don’t know which child you will get.
If as a child you want to drop wud for big people, with an ill-researched article, then you must can take disagreement with the puerile stance taken.
No definition. No suggestion. But I do make allowance for the youth factor. Ironically, young people in this very age category are some of the rudest humans. Was it gentle parenting that caused that or will that be blamed on nature?
Old people will say is not just what you say but how you say it. Go ahead encourage young people to disrespect their elders. Will you tell me there was no more respectful way to put these across?
It’s not just violence. It is their rude ways. Their sharp no filter tongue and their mindset of entitlement and being able to say whatever however. It is all connected.
Either extreme is wrong, yes. But gentle parenting is not the other end of the spectrum from kill them with blow. Gentle parenting includes boundaries, consistency and discipline. Or are those bad???
Thinking you know it all on a subject you have not researched nor experienced is WILD.