Taking money from my mother’s boyfriend

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Dear Kate,

I am a 20-year-old girl who lives with my mom. I just finished college and my mom has this new boyfriend who has a lot of money.
I mean he is based on what I see he brings to the house. I have been secretly taking money from him. I cannot say he has ever disrespected me.
I think he just wants me to approve of him and my mom. I know he loves her. So one time he was home and I started complaining  I need a new phone and he bought me one.
Then I asked him to upgrade my laptop and he did. My mom knew about it and asked me to stop. But I couldn’t. I said well I need to go to driving school. He is the one paying.
Last week I called him and asked him for 500 to buy some clothes online and he told me ok but don’t tell my mom because she will be upset.
He has been slipping me money behind her back I guess to keep me happy. Do you think this is wrong?
I mean it’s not like we sleeping together or anything? He just gives me money to ensure his place is secure with my mom. I don’t think I want it to stop but I don’t want to hurt mom.
Pensive.
Dear Pensive,
Plain and simple; it is wrong to be taking money from your mother’s boyfriend. Especially without her consent. She told you to stop and you refused.
The love of money they say is the root of all evil and I can already see this blowing up into something you will regret. Secondly, if your mother’s new found love had any respect for her he wouldn’t be going down that lane with you.
Besides, why would he have to pay you to approve of him? His approval has to do with how he feels about your mom and the way he treats her.
Something’s not right here. I’m guessing you didn’t tell all there is to about that story. I could be wrong. But long and short, it’s not wise to take money in secret from your mother’s boyfriend.
Kate

9 COMMENTS

  1. Kate …well said….

    He might be doing this to buy your approval….but your mother told you STOP……why can’t you honor her wishes…

    Your a SELFISHSH & MANIPULATIVE little girl …yes U little 20 ain’t grown cos you can’t provide for yourself…when you do it shows maturity….responsibility…..

    What your gonna ask 4 next….SEX???

    I HOPE THIS ENDS WELL….

  2. I also think HE IS AT FAULT AT WELL…..

    WHY HE FEELS OBLIGATED TO GIVE HER MONIES EVERYTHING SHE ASK AND ENCOURAGES HER ALSO TO HIDE IT FROM HER MOTHER…

    HE UP TO SOMETHING TOO…IT WILL BE A MATTER OF TIME B4 HE SUGGEST …SEX …AND DNT TELL UR MOM

    TIME WILL TELL…

  3. The heart of mankind is desperately wicked! I advise you to STOP this in it’s track’s before thing’s get out of hand! He does not need to buy his way into your live’s, he is also not obligated to ask for your approval as he and your mother are two consenting adult’s. I will not assume he is seeking sexual relation’s with you, but I also will not rule it out. I implore you to respect your mother’s wishes and cease the acceptance of Money from her boyfriend. The last thing you want is to end up in the middle of a spat due to such a practice which personally I see as greed and both of you being deceitful. Young woman take heed!

  4. Young lady you are well aware of what you are doing. I got married at age 21 so I know that it is quite possible for a 20 yr old to think like an adult and act accordingly. We don’t need to tell you to stop accepting money from your mother’s boyfriend. The fact that you wrote publicly about it suggests that you are uncomfortable with it. Make the right choice – Eccl. 10:16 “…..but money answereth all things” however, 1 Tim 6:10 “For the love of money is the root of all evi ….”.
    Further, Luke 12:48 “For unto whomsoever much is given, of him shall be much required”.
    I say no more.

  5. He is not securing a place with mom,he is securing a place with you, he has already concurs you the moment he told you not to tell your mom. Anytime he asked back for a favor you cannot refuse, because he already have you hooked on you addiction

  6. When doing anything in life, once you question your own actions or your conscience nags you, then you are most likely doing what’s wrong.

  7. You need to respect yourself.
    Stand firm, the love of money you wil end up and have a baby, you’re in a mess come on think positive don’t let down your parents you’re lying some where you need to be truthful Loser.SMH

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