I am not sure why but lately I have been entertaining the thoughts of having sex with a girl.
I am thirty-three and have always had sex with men. In my lifetime I have gotten oral from two girls. I also recall having very short-lived, non-sexual relationship with two girls while I was younger.
I know girls find me attractive because even to this day they hit on me.
To be clear, I don’t think my attraction to men will ever change so this isn’t me becoming straight.
However, I feel the need to have sex with a woman to get over the fear that I have always had. Who knows I might enjoy women too.
The question is who do I do it with. If I do it with a girl I know, should I be honest as to why I want to have sex with her? Do I do it with a random prostitute?
And Kate, I have been wanting to have a child should I just get the girl pregnant one time.
Oh maybe you think its best I just stick with guys, Let me know.
When I get these letters I realize that we live in a messed up society and people’s problems are becoming more and more complicated every day.
But then in another thought, I realize that people bring problems upon themselves all the time.
Now you are a gay man. But lately, you feel you want to be with women? Maybe you’re not gay after all. Gay men never want women. Besides, you said you had some encounter with women before.
Then you are now admitting you want a child. Before you can bring a child into this mess; you need to find yourself.
Finding yourself here means determining exactly who you are sexually. Whether it’s gay straight or bisexual. Because you seem to be very confused.
Once you establish who you are, then you can determine whether you want to continue being with a man, move into a normal relationship with a woman or have it both ways.
Whichever you decide; don’t add to your confusion by even considering bringing an innocent person, let alone child into this mess.