{"id":10094,"date":"2017-12-11T11:25:36","date_gmt":"2017-12-11T15:25:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/antiguanewsroom.com\/?p=10094"},"modified":"2017-12-11T21:02:01","modified_gmt":"2017-12-12T01:02:01","slug":"my-workplace-lover-wants-to-remain-a-secret","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/antiguanewsroom.com\/my-workplace-lover-wants-to-remain-a-secret\/","title":{"rendered":"DEAR KATE: My workplace lover wants to remain a secret"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Dear Kate,<\/p>

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I am in a situation that I need to get out of. This co-worker of mine whom I have been seeing for six years wants us to remain a secret.<\/p>\n

The thing about it is that he says it could affect our working relationship. I don\u2019t believe him because I know of co-workers who fell in love and even got married. I am beginning to think that he is probably ashamed of me.<\/p>

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He wouldn\u2019t take me anywhere and at work, we wouldn\u2019t even have lunch together or coffee breaks. When we are off the job he comes to my home and sleep half the night but always leaves before the day is bright.<\/p>

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He says he wants us to remain discrete. I cannot say he has a woman but I cannot say he doesn’t because I have never been to his home. He says he lives with his family and needs time. Kate, I just don\u2019t know what to do.<\/p>\n

Help Me<\/p>

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Dear Help Me<\/p>\n

If you cannot clearly see that this man is avoiding an open relationship with you then I don\u2019t think there\u2019s anything I can tell you.<\/p>

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Firstly, six years is more than sufficient time to know if you are in love with someone or not.<\/p>

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How could you have stomached that secret love affair for all this time? Secondly, what\u2019s that about him not taking you to his home because of family?<\/p>\n

Lady, run and run as fast as you can. This man is clearly two-timing you and you are seemingly too blind to see that. Discretion is permittable when you are with someone else\u2019s man or husband.<\/p>\n

But wait\u2026Perhaps are you are. Just maybe that\u2019s the reason he wants to keep you at bay for six years.<\/p>\n

Hit the road and look for someone who will be yours, who\u2019s not hiding anything from you and who is willing to love you publicly.<\/p>\n

Kate<\/p>\n

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