I was seeing this man and he said he was single, now I am having his child and only recently I just found out that him and his child mother is still together. I am hurt, yes, and I have moved on but my problem is that I am having his child and he has not addressed the matter in terms what he is doing.
His child mother has messaged me on my phone saying he does not deny the child but as long as they are together she will not let him take care of his child (with me). What she saying is not my concern but I have tried to call him many times and there is no answer.
What to do
Dear What To Do,
His child’s mother cannot decide whether or not he is taking care of his child. Be strong, we all make mistakes and many women are in that position even today. Once you can prove that the child is this man’s seed, then he has a mandatory obligation by law to care for the child. You need to begin to gather your evidence against him.
You need to try to communicate with him to give him the chance to say whether or not he intends to take care of the child. As a matter of fact, he has to care for the child growing in your belly. He has to share the cost of clinic/doctor visits and any medication you may need along the way.
Once you have the child his duties must continue until the child is 18 years. Don’t let this man be one of those dead beat dads who are not taken to task for neglecting their children. This child is his responsibility, just as much as it is yours.
As I said, you didn’t hear the neglect to care statement from him this is why you need to get his position and ensure you have it on record so you can use that as evidence.